Useless Vs. Priceless Phrases
I have three Priceless Phrases that can make your life easier (and/or more successful) if you chose to use them immediately.
But before I get to those, let me share some favorite Useless Phrases so the distinction between the two types of phrases becomes very clear to you.
3 Useless Phrases
- I’m a big fan of shouting “Lords of Light!” when surprised. ( Silly phrase – Just darn odd too)
- Being of Irish Boston heritage I will say a whole lot of (when angry) “ _______, Mary and Joseph!” (I left it blank because I swear my Mom still can hear me and she would not be happy).
- If you are a faithful blog reader you know that lately I’m partial to randomly saying “That’s not a real puppy. That’s too small to be a real puppy”. I use this phrase (stolen from a TV commercial) when I see people obsessed with social media.
None of these phrases really do anything for me. Nor certainly, will they do anything for you.
But now these next phrases – Have at em’ – They will set you free!
3 Priceless Phrases
“OK, let’s talk a bit more and see what we can do”. Is part of your job helping people? My guess is yes. Is part of your job getting requests or demands from colleagues or customers? Then this phrase is for you. Nobody likes to hear “no” right off the bat (and few of us like to say it). This phrase takes requests or demands and gets you both a little time (critical for discovery) and focuses on what “can” be done vs. what can’t. Tension is therefore reduced and work can begin. Make it your own – “talk” can become “meet”, “we” can become “I”. You get it.
“Who besides yourself…” So easy, but nobody says it. Talking with customer, colleague or service provider no matter – this phrase gets you way more than you think. Want to talk to the decision maker? Presume the person you are talking to has some kind of influence and ask “Who besides yourself has a say in investing here?” Otherwise you risk disconnect or diversion. Protect the pride and ego of the people you talk to- it helps you.
“Tell me more about that…” Fantastic for a networking event, or easing the challenge of going to party with people you may not have ever met or simply doing some good discovery with a client. We all love to talk about ourselves or what we do. This phrase fuels that making you also perceived to be “such a great listener!” No harm in saying “Tell me more about that” a dozen times in an hour at a convention, conference or party. Bonus: You can make this phrase more effectively open up your clients, new friends or potential customers by narrowing the focus (vs. the broad word “more”). Ask “Tell me the best part about that”. It allows for often a faster focus point for the responder and better, it keeps that person focused on the positive – all good when they think back on talking with you.
Till next time,
Grow The Business.